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[chaoswolf]

Happy birthday firewolf74!

Erf. Today was long in all the ways I didn't want it to be. School happened, and fencing happened. Think I may have sprained my wrist again during one of my lunges by over-extending. Dumb wolfling...yes I'm treating it with ice & all that stuff.

Um...misdev and flower_cat were here when I got home from Burger King...(I fell asleep on the bus & got off in front of BK, so I figured I'd go for it). After watching a few episodes of Cadfael, figmo came over for an hour or so and joined us.

Then....disaster. I am reminded that I have to play messenger in someone else's soap opera...and I can't say it suprised me...but the fact that I have to do this scares me. I did it via messenger because my phone is dead, and I'm not sure if she'll read it before she goes to school in the morning.

Anyways...not like that matters right now, as I have to go to bed. G'night, folks.

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Wolfling
"Go in peace." --- Cadfael

Comments

[kshandra]

I am reminded that I have to play messenger in someone else's soap opera...

No.

You.

DON'T.

I will tell you right now, and I speak from entirely too much experience, that the only thing that will result in is BOTH of the people on either side no longer speaking to you.

[chaoswolf]

True...I suppose it's because I can't say "no" easily to my friends that I do this.

[kshandra]

Even if you never say no to friends in regards to anything else, you NEED to learn how in cases like this, for your own emotional well-being. It's not easy - $DEITY knows I'm still prone to the occasional slip - but even if you only manage to say "no, I won't do this" one more time than you say "okay, I'll be your go-between," it's a victory. (Of course, you want to tip the scales much more heavily in favor of No, but you've gotta eat the elephant one bite at a time.)

[jilara.livejournal.com]

There is a psych word for behaviors involving "playing messenger in someone else's soap opera." It's a phenomenon called "triangulation." It is a dysfunctional behavior that is Bad for all parties involved. A question for you to ask yourself: Why are you doing it? What benefits or repercussions accrue from doing/not doing it?

[chaoswolf]

The benefits: making it better, I hope.

The repercussions: getting yelled at by people involved.

[jilara.livejournal.com]

The sad truth is it usually doesn't work that way. It just gets you involved in the melodrama and gives you ulcers. Used to go there, got the whole set of t-shirts.

[avenginglioness.livejournal.com]

ohh... fencing! that's so cool. ^.^