Letter-ish

[chaoswolf]

Laura ---

I am moving on. I've learned a few things since the breakup, especially communication and space. I did what I did out of fear another mugging incident might happen. I understand that life needs to take its course and that you need your friends and space, as I need mine. It will be equal if I am granted the chance to make it so. I am no longer the clingy puppy that I was, but now a lone wolf who is moving on. My offer of friendship remains open, and I would like to rejoin our mutual friends without the tension between us. My life has changed, and I'm now accepting it. My dependencies have diminished, and I still care about you. Make of this what you will.

--- Chaos

Comments

[drewkitty.livejournal.com]

You rock.

[ashi.livejournal.com]

Yeah. And I like the letter.

[mdlbear]

Good letter. Best of luck; it sounds like you're working things out and heading in the right direction.

Great letter

[capplor.livejournal.com]

Now as one of your volunteer wise old aunties (who has also been on Laura's side of this kind of dynamic), I'll make sure you know the follow up. At this point, you've said all the right things. (Well, the "I've totally changed" is a bit over -- nobody changes their whole personality that fast, but it can be taken as a sincere expression that you know which way you need to grow).

What's next is that Laura may be suspicious. "All the right words" may sound like a tactic to get her back. You have to prove that you mean it. Get on with your life. If that includes contact with mutual friends, be polite, but err on the side of ignoring her. If you can initially find ways to see those mutual friends without her, so much the better. Whatever you do, you do not put her on the spot by asking (in word or deed), "Now that I'm independent, will you take me back?" That would just totally blow your credibility with her.

[selenesue.livejournal.com]

Good on ya,kiddo! Drive on. There's love and adventure over the next horizon!

[ororo.livejournal.com]

That's a great start. Good luck!

[kalanasse.livejournal.com]

Hey hon,

More power to you! Remember the discussion we had and keep your spririt up. There's always more to life than you think and we should all have fun while we can. If you're ever depressed you know you can call me. I'll be here for you.

---pet