What's a lovelife?

[chaoswolf]

Well, okay. Stupid question for She Who Has Too Many Girlfriends to be asking to the general public of Fandom. I just broke up with the one by the alias of Anarchy. For those of you fans who knew what my grades looked like in Middle School, Anarchy made those grades look respectable. Highest grades for her was a D. She had 4 of those and 2 Fs. Fill in the blanks......I feel really bad about this. I still love her, but I can't keep the relationship going any longer. This is the last time I've attempted to plan something before summer and there doesn't look like there's any way I can fix this. It seems like.....this was meant to happen to teach me a lesson. Why can't I learn that girls like her aren't best for me? It seems to be trying to tell me something, but I can't figure out what it is....now what am I going to do...?

Comments

A love-life...

[aerowolf.livejournal.com]

A love-life is something you probably shouldn't be worrying too much about... though I know your hormones are raging. Far too many people allow themselves to be defined by their partners, sometimes/often even trying to live vicariously through them. This is, as you can surmise, unhealthy at best.

Live your life the way you want to, live your life the way you're meant to. You've got the mothering instinct ("I want to make things better for her"); that's good, but you're too young to apply it to others. Apply it to yourself first.

[sdorn.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately, love isn't the same as common sense, and generally you have to side with common sense. You're right to decide that you can't fix someone's basic problems. We can encourage the best in someone else, but you can't force her or him to look hard in the mirror and grow up.

My experience as an adolescent, and my observations since then, tell me that we attract others (in friendship and romance) when we have our own **** together and (in addition) pay attention to others as human beings without paying attention to the catty voices in the back of our heads. (You can always listen to and lecture those catty voices later.)

Your mileage may vary, of course.

[johno.livejournal.com]

Yet another "love" comment:

You love someone for who they are, not for what you can make them.

Sometimes you love someone who you can't stand to be around